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Summer vacation is the best time when parents can bond with their children. Nidhi Bhushan finds out how they connect

For 13-year-old Vijay S, the first thing that comes to his mind when you say "family" is "brain". He explains: "It is my mom and dad who tell me what's wrong and what's right. So, I think they are the ones who should be credited for the knowledge that I have." But unlike Vijay, not all kids take kindly to being simply told about the rights and wrongs in life. For some children, all it takes is for the parent "to just be there" and be a friendly guide. Neena David, Bangalore-based clinical psychologist, says: "Quality time means being there for your child at all times."

Varsha R, 13, cherishes the time when she plays carom board and badminton with her mother. "I love spending time with my mother. She is always there for me when I need her. I come back from school and tell her about my day and she listens patiently. My mom is my best friend and I don't think anybody can ever replace her," says Varsha.

There's a thin line, however, city psychologists say, between being close to your children and eating into their private space, which might hinder their independent thinking and growth. "If a mother behaves immaturely to be close to the child, that won't work in helping their relationship," says Dr Murali Raj, head of department of psychiatry, Manipal Hospital. Parents need to strike a balance, he says, between being a friend and a guide.

There's no better time than the summer holidays for parents and children to bond. Supritha M, 13, especially loved the time when she went to a movie with her mother. "I enjoyed the most when my mom and I went to watch the movie, Thoda Pyar Thoda Magic. Before the movie, we went to the Scary House at Garuda mall and then also lunched out together before returning home."

But all's not fun. The parent-child bond goes far deeper when the aspects of learning and discipline play a role. "I participate in my child's activities as much as I can by playing a supervisory role for them. Since I'm working, I spend a lot of time with my children in the evenings, I also read stories to them before they go to bed," says David. Discipline and encouragement are two sides of the same coin. The former must not mean holding the children back as much as the latter must not mean that the children lose direction in their lives. Father of 9-year-old Karthik, Raghavendra Rao, says: "I have always encouraged my child when it comes to his studies and extra-curricular activities. I do as much as I can to participate in his sports activities including basketball, volleyball, cricket, etc."

Similar is the case of Babitha Harry, who has allowed her children to develop varied interests. "I have always encouraged my elder daughter, Achilya, to read and write. Roald Dahl's Charlie and The Chocolate Factory are her favourites," says Harry. She says that when Achilya cried when the king dies in Lion King, it made her realise how sensitive her daughter is. Harry frequents Lalbagh with her two daughters where an impromptu picnic makes for great bonding. Doing puzzles, cooking together, watching movies and creative writing are also bonding time.

Parent-child bonding, as doctors tell us, is crucial to developing healthy relationships, not just within the family, but outside too. All the ingredients of fun, learning, discipline and openness in communication must be part of the process.


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