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Wombs on rent now common in Bangalore PDF Print E-mail
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Written by Jayashree Nandi - TNN   

Fertility Problems, Late Marriages Spur The Surrogacy Trend

Jayashree Nandi | TNN


Bangalore: Renting a womb is no more a rare thing in Bangalore. On the lines of Gujarat’s successful surrogate mothers at Anand, that is internationally acclaimed, even Bangalore is gradually opening up to the concept and many couples are waiting to get a mother to nurture their baby. The Bangalore Assisted Conception Centre currently has eight couples registered to get surrogate pregnancies done, and eight have already been successfully performed.
Recently, Sanjana (name changed), 34, came to the clinic with a problem of infertility. She had already got three in-vitro fertilizations (IVFs) done in Mumbai and came to BACC for the fourth IVF. However, the fourth one was also a biochemical pregnancy miscarriage. She was still up for the fifth IVF but had an abortion during the eighth month.
“She had an implantation failure. Since she was married for 11 years and had tried IVF so many times, we understood how important the baby was for her. So we counselled her for surrogacy and asked her to find a surrogate mother. It was particularly painful as she could conceive but couldn’t carry it through,” says Dr Sunitha. Sanjana successfully had a baby boy through the surrogacy last month. Her case is rare as she had already tried IVF several times and was very young for a surrogacy.
But the concept has picked up fast in the city. “People are aware of the surrogacy option. Even a couple of years ago, it was quite rare. But right now, we are dealing with three surrogacy cases in the clinic. Many more are waiting. The only concern with surrogacy is that it’s difficult to find surrogate mothers. We ask the patients to find their own surrogate mothers because then the bond is stronger and there are less chances of any legal hassles,” adds Dr Sunitha.
Even at Cradle’s Sure Fertility center, four cases of surrogacy were performed in the past one year. “Couples decide to go for it due to multiple reasons. For instance, a woman lost her womb in an accident. She had no other option but to go in for surrogacy. In two cases we have identified the surrogates for them, while in two others they have brought their own surrogates,” says MD, Cradle hospital, Dr Kishore Kumar.
According to some doctors, the surrogates charge anywhere between Rs 25,000 to Rs 50,000 for the process and regular upkeep.
Gynaecologist, Dr Padmini Prasad says that there is definitely more acceptance of the idea among couples. “They want to carry forward the family lineage and people have started understanding that they will still remain the biological parents and only the womb is different. Almost all the IVF centers I know are seeing and increase in the trend. In the past few years I have assisted in around five to six cases where the surrogate mothers were not just the womb donors but also egg donors. My patients have started accepting it and I have suggested the option to many of my patients,”she said.
SURROGACY COUNSELLING
Usually, doctors look out for healthy surrogates who have undergone a couple of pregnancies successfully. They also counsel the candidates to see if they are willing to undergo the complete pregnancy. The payment is decided among the two parties and the doctors are not aware of the exchange, apart from the cost of the medical support.
“Some patients have also told us about Shrushti, the first organization in Bangalore that has willing surrogate mothers who register and undergo the process. We do not know much about the organization but we always encourage couples to get their own surrogate mothers and get a lawyer to settle the matter properly, so that after the delivery of the baby there are no legal issues,” explained Dr Sunitha.
CAREER WOMEN LEAD THE WAY
Dr Anu Kottur, gynaecologist with BACC, says the concept has also picked up because many working women nowadays do not have the time to undergo the complete pregnancy cycle.
“Some women are in high positions and travel a lot. They do not prefer to give up their career for the pregnancy. Such women did approach us. But we have mostly helped people who were not able to conceive after several IVFs. The main reason behind this trend is late marriages and lack of time among couples. But why should a woman be deprived of children? If the woman takes care of her surrogate help properly, it can be done very successfully,” she explains.
However, most couples still do not prefer to talk about surrogacy in the open.

 
Parental Child Abduction is Child Abuse PDF Print E-mail
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Written by Nancy Faulkner, Ph.D   
Presented to the United Nations Convention on Child Rights in Special Session, June 9, 1999, on behalf of P.A.R.E.N.T. and victims of parental child abduction.
Introduction
"Because of the harmful effects on children, parental kidnapping has been characterized as a form of child abuse" reports Patricia Hoff, Legal Director for the Parental Abduction Training and Dissemination Project, American Bar Association on Children and the Law. Hoff explains:
"Abducted children suffer emotionally and sometimes physically at the hands of abductor-parents. Many children are told the other parent is dead or no longer loves them. Uprooted from family and friends, abducted children often are given new names by their abductor-parents and instructed not to reveal their real names or where they lived before." (Hoff, 1997)
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Parenting wars PDF Print E-mail
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Written by JOHN SHARRY - The Irish Times   

Whereas in the past parenting differently was tolerated, there is now a belief that there is only one ‘right’ way to rear children

It has bothered me all my life that I do not paint like everybody else .”

– Henri Matisse

A COUPLE OF months ago in the UK there was a furore over parents who allowed their children, aged six and eight, to cycle the short journey to school each day unaccompanied. Parents of other children were so upset at this that they made official complaints to social services, which escalated when the parents refused to change their behaviour.

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Spouse-killing on the rise PDF Print E-mail
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Written by Vinay Madhav, Times of India   
In 2008, when Manoj, a techie, allegedly murdered his wife Lakshmi, also a techie, he made it appear it was a murder for gain.

Though it was a high-profile case, it was dismissed as a stray incident. Two years down the line, police statistics reveal that spouse killing spouse is on the rise in Bangalore.

Sample this: From January to October 2010, of the 142 murders registered in the city, spouses were behind the murder in over 45 cases. Alarmed by the development, police commissioner Shankar Bidari made public appeals: "If people cannot live together, get legally separated. Don't kill each other. Police will not spare you. In such cases, police can hardly do anything but arrest the culprits. There are no preventive ways as conspiracy to murder takes place within the four walls."

"`By mid-October, the number of such murders has crossed 60. Though many of them are from lower middle class, it is surfacing among the middle class too. Desires of individuals are becoming stronger and they do not think about consequences," says Joint Commissioner of Police (Crime) Alok Kumar.

"Society has changed and social values have collapsed. From joint family, we came down to nuclear family then to childless couples. People have become too self-centric and materialistic too," he says.

It is not just husbands getting wives murdered __ women have not lagged behind. Honey Mary, who was married for three months, was charged of getting her husband Umesh Krishnan murdered with the help of her old lover. Ditto with Shubha of Byappanahalli who allegedly not only got her husband murdered by her paramour, but later got her paramour also murdered with help from another person, say police.

"Some plan well and make it look like a murder for gain. Wherever there is sexual jealousy, they leave a clue behind," says Alok Kumar.

PSYCHIATRISTS WORRIED

The trend has alarmed psychiatrists too. "There has been a psychological disorder of infidelity and this trend is a new social challenge. There is no proper study conducted on the issue. But with available information, we are analyzing the trend and it is alarming," says Dr A Jagadish of Abhaya Hospital.

The new economic independence of youngsters is one of the reasons. This empowers youngsters to make impulsive decisions, breaking social norms. Lack of parental supervision leads to such disasters. "As we have seen, no such cases have taken place after parental interference and supervision to counsel the children. More than 95 % of cases have taken place where there was no scope for supervision," says Dr Jagadish.

"Worse, youngsters seem to be confident of wriggling out after committing murder, even if they are caught. This problem has to be addressed at four levels. First, at an individual level, secondly, family level, next, society level and lastly legal level. If youngsters are aware of the legal consequences, then they will think twice before indulging in such acts," he says.

Read more: Spouse-killing on the rise - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bangalore/Spouse-killing-on-the-rise/articleshow/6765942.cms#ixzz12mHj9qmZ
 
Abuse and custody disputes: Scientific and Legal Issues PDF Print E-mail
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Written by Leadership Council   

Abuse and custody disputes: Scientific and Legal Issues

Note: the following references are provided for educational and informational purposes only. The views expressed in a specific article are those of the author or authors and do not necessarily represent those of the Leadership Council.

Scholarly Articles and Reviews

General information on child sexual abuse

Information on Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)

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RateTheCourts.com
At RateTheCourts.com, visitors may anonymously complete judicial evaluation surveys for over 23,500 of the nation's judges and judicial nominees.

The Crisis in Family Law Courts
by the National Organization for Women

Professional Organizations

  • The Leadership Council on Child Abuse & Interpersonal Violence: Conducts research and educates the public, health professionals and the courts on issues related to abuse including those arising during child custody and assess disputes. The LC submits amicus briefs in key cases involving child abuse and interpersonal violence. If you would like to request an amicus brief for a case click here.

  • The Center for the Protection of Chlldren
    An educational organization, created to help protect children from the dangers of violence in the home.

  • The Center for Judicial Excellence: The Center for Judicial Excellence is a community-based organization established to improve the judiciary's public accountability & strengthen & maintain the integrity of the courts

  • Council for Family Court Reform: A group of concerned professionals, organizations, and individuals committed to ensuring the protection of children in family courts.
    E-Mail: info@familycourtrc.org

  • Justice for Children
    URL: www.justiceforchildren.org
    Justice for Children is a national non-profit organization which advocates for children's rights and protection from abuse through public education, development of effective intervention and prevention strategies, and legal advocacy.

  • Resource Center on Domestic Violence, Child Protection, and Custody
    NCJFCJ
    P.O. Box 8970
    Reno, NV 89507
    Phone: 800-527-3223
    FAX: 775-784-6160

  • Stop Family Violence
    Stop Family Violence's  mission is to organize and amplify our nation's collective voice against family violence.  SFV is a catalyst for social change - empowering people to take action at the local, state and national level to ensure safety, justice, accountability and healing for people whose lives are affected by violent relationships.

Domestic Violence

Grassroots Organizations for Protective Parents and Their Children

Note: While some of these websites are focused on mothers, however, most offer help and support to both mothers and fathers - the focus is on protecting the rights of protective parents and their children to live free from abuse.

  • (http://www.courageouskids.net/): This website brings together "courageous kids" -- children who have been forced by court order to live with an allegedly abusive parent. A quote from the website: "We, of the CKN, would like to reach out to kids everywhere who are placed in similar situations. We want you to know you are not alone. Because of the current trend in family courts throughout the nation, many of us have experienced and suffered the same issues in our lives. We believe that together our voices can be heard, and that together our voices can make a difference to change the future."

  • (http://custodyprepformoms.org/)
  • (http://protectiveparents.com/): Website for the California Protective Parents Association.
  • (http://www.icfcr.org/index.html): This group is fighting for family court reform in Illinois.
  • (http://www.mothers-of-lost-children.com/) This site hosts a national survey and research project to obtain data on the number of protective parents who have lost custody to an allegedly abusive parent. The survey is being conducted by sociologist Dr. Geraldine Stahly. The website also provides practical advice for protective parents involved in a custody case.
  • (http://www.mrrc.info/): This site offers
  • National Coalition For Family Justice (www.ncfj.org): This is a grassroots, gender neutral, 501(c)3 nonprofit organization, founded in 1988 and headquartered in Irvington, New York. CFJ is run by volunteers who are dedicated to promoting justice in marital and family matters and to raising awareness of problems families experience in the divorce and family court system. The CFJ lists chapters in New York, New Hampshire, North Carolina and California as well as contacts in other areas.
  • The National Family Court Watch Project
    The National Family Court Watch Project is dedicated to providing an impartial assessment of the effectiveness of family courts in dealing with custody, visitation, support and property issues. This project focuses on how well child protection and family violence concerns are resolved.
  • Protective Mothers Alliance International(PMA): An international organization working to bring about change in family court through education, legislation reform,community outreach and enforcement of current legislation.
  • Rhode Island Parenting Project (blog)
    Focuses on the needs of children at risk in Family Court custody cases.
  • Stopfamilyviolence.org: The people's voice for family peace. Stop Family Violence is a national grassroots organization with a mission to organize and amplify our nation's collective voice against family violence.
  • CA3 -Children Against Court Appointed Child Abuse
 
Parental Child abduction - bride to be PDF Print E-mail
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Written by Daily Mail Reporter   

Parental Child abduction: Bride-to-be discovers she was abducted by her own mother 26 years ago

A bride-to-be has discovered she was abducted by her own mother 26 years ago.
Melissa Reed - whose real name is Eva Fiedler - disappeared with her mother during a bitter child custody battle in New Jersey in 1984. At the time she was just six years old.
Now she is 32. Engaged to be married, she discovered she could not obtain a marriage licence - because Melissa Reed is not her real name.

Living a lie: A photograph issued by police in 1984 of Eva Marie Fiedler after she was abducted by her mother Nancy
Facing charges: A police handout of mother Nancy Fiedler, who had lived for 26 years as Debbie Reed after going on the run with her daughter during a child custody hearing

When suspicious authorities began asking questions, her mother - Nancy Dunsavage Fiedler, alias Debbie Reed - came clean.
Now Eva has had her first conversation with her father in 26 years - while her mother has been arrested.
Fiedler had been granted custody of her daughter after her divorce from Eva's father, named in reports as New Hampshire resident Greg Fiedler, in 1983.
But in 1984 he took his ex-wife to court, accusing her of denying him visitation rights to their daughter.
He was granted ten days custody of Eva - and Fiedler, who accused her ex of being abusive, panicked.
In Nevada court papers she said she feared for her life, accusing her ex-husband of saying he would 'hunt us down' and 'end it all for both of us'.
'Day in and day out, fear and violence were part of my life,' she wrote.
'I fled because i had no money (for a lawyer)... and I wanted to remove my daughter from his life of threats and fear.
'I did not want this to be her future too.'
The mother and daughter have lived under a variety of aliases ever since - mostly in Nevada.
Eva never held a driver's licence or Social Security number, living virtually as a ghost.
When she tried to apply for a marriage licence, however, she was unable to get one without photo ID.
At that point, both she and her mother tried to legally change their names to the aliases they had used so long - Melissa and Debbie Reed.
It is not clear why Melissa, or Eva, believed that a name change was necessary.
Desperate: A police handout of Nancy Fiedler from 1985

But authorities began asking questions - and within hours police had confronted Fiedler in their home.
She confessed. 'The wedding is set, the guests are committed and she cannot get a marriage licence because she has no photo ID,' she wrote in court papers.
'This has brought me to the [realisation] that we cannot continue living like this.'
Now she is facing extradition back to New Jersey to face the kidnapping charge.
Meanwhile Eva and her father, now 62, have had their first conversation in 26 years - and it did not, apparently, go well.
'It was the most difficult conversation I’ve ever had,' Mr Fiedler told local website NJ.com.
'I had nothing to relate to,' he added. 'Twenty-six years have gone by.'
They appear to have had an especially tense moment when he asked her to tell him why she had filed to change her name.
He claimed he said: 'Eva Marie, this is your father speaking. I know who you are. There has to be a reason you are trying to change your name. '
But she would not elaborate, he said.
'She was taken aback by everything,' he said. 'I was a little disappointed. She's still trying to protect her mother.'
Police do not believe that Eva Fiedler knew anything about the case, said Sgt. Frank Roman, commander of major crimes for the Somerset County Prosecutor's office in New Jersey.
'It is still a very active investigation, but we believe she was not aware of this, no,' Roman told The Associated Press.
Roman said that Eva Fiedler should be treated as a victim in the case, but 'it's not like she was ever in any danger or anything like that.'
 
Dirty gender bias PDF Print E-mail
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Written by dad4justice.blogspot.com - Jeffrey Asher   

 

"The core problem is feminist jurisprudence, which predetermines mother custody in over 94% of cases,

therefore the ongoing harm to families, fathers and children”. Jeffrey Asher

Fatherlessness Statistics

This proves that fatherlessness is a huge problem for Western societies, Its been catching up in INDIA too.

*63% of youth suicides (Source: U.S. D.H.K.S., Bureau of the Census)
* 70% of juveniles in State Institutions (Source: U.S. Dept. of justice, special Report, Sept 1988)
* 71% of teen pregnancies (U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services)
* 71% of High School dropouts (Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High schools)
* 75% of children in chemical abuse centres (Source: Rainbows For All God's Children.)

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Fatherless America PDF Print E-mail
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Written by David Blankenhorn   

The United States is becoming an increasingly fatherless society. A generation ago, an American child could reasonably expect to grow up with his or her father. Today, an American child  can reasonably expect not to. Fatherlessness is now approaching a rough parity with fatherhood as a defining feature of American childhood.

This astonishing fact is reflected in many statistics, but here are the two most important. Tonight, about 40 percent of American children will go to sleep in homes in which their fathers do not  live. Before they reach the age of eighteen, more than half of our nation's children are likely to spend at least a significant portion of their childhood living apart from their fathers. Never  before in this country have so many children been voluntarily abandoned by their fathers. Never before have so many children grown up without knowing what it means to have a father.

Fatherlessness is the most harmful demographic trend of this generation. It is the leading cause of declining child well-being in our society. It is also the engine driving our most urgent social  problems, from crime to adolescent pregnancy to child sexual abuse to domestic violence against women. Yet, despite its scale and social consequences, fatherlessness is a problem that is  frequently ignored or denied. Especially within our elite discourse, it remains largely a problem with no name.

If this trend continues, fatherlessness is likely to change the shape of our society. Consider this prediction. After the year 2000, as people born after 1970 emerge as a large proportion of  our working-age adult population, the United States will be divided into two groups, separate and unequal. The two groups will work in the same economy, speak a common language, and  remember the same national history. But they will live fundamentally divergent lives. One group will receive basic benefits - psychological, social, economic, educational, and moral - that are  denied to the other group.

The primary fault line dividing the two groups will not be race, religion, class, education, or gender. It will be patrimony. One group will consist of those adults who grew up with the daily  presence and provision of fathers. The other group will consist of those who did not. By the early years of the next century, these two groups will be roughly the same size.

Surely a crisis of this scale merits a response. At a minimum, it requires a serious debate. Why is fatherhood declining? What can be done about it? Can our society find ways to invigorate  effective fatherhood as a norm of male behavior? Yet, to date, the public discussion on this topic has been remarkably weak and defeatist. There is a prevailing belief that not much can - or  even should - be done to reverse the trend.

When the crime rate jumps, politicians promise to do something about it. When the unemployment rate rises, task forces assemble to address the problem. As random shootings increase,  public health officials worry about the preponderance of guns. But when it comes to the mass defection of men from family life, not much happens.

There is debate, even alarm, about specific social problems. Divorce. Out-of-wedlock childbearing. Children growing up in poverty. Youth violence. Unsafe neighborhoods. Domestic  violence. The weakening of parental authority. But in these discussions, we seldom acknowledge the underlying phenomenon that binds together these otherwise disparate issues: the flight of  males from children's lives. In fact, we seem to go out of our way to avoid the connection between our most pressing social problems and the trend of fatherlessness.

We avoid this connection because, as a society, we are changing our minds about the role of men in family life. As a cultural idea, our inherited understanding of fatherhood is under siege.  Men in general, and fathers in particular, are increasingly viewed as superfluous to family life: either expendable or as part of the problem. Masculinity itself, understood as anything other  than a rejection of what it has traditionally meant to be male, is typically treated with suspicion and even hostility in our cultural discourse. Consequently, our society is now manifestly unable  to sustain, or even find reason to believe in, fatherhood as a distinctive domain of male activity.

The core question is simple: Does every child need a father? Increasingly, our society's answer is "no", or at least, "not necessarily." Few idea shifts in this century are as consequential as this  one. At stake is nothing less than what it means to be a man, who our children will be, and what kind of society we will become.

This book is a criticism not simply of fatherlessness but of a culture of fatherlessness. For, in addition to losing fathers, we are losing something larger: our idea of fatherhood. Unlike earlier  periods of father absence in our history, we now face more than a physical loss affecting some homes. We face a cultural loss affecting every home. For this reason, the most important  absence our society must confront is not the absence of fathers but the absence of our belief in fathers.

In a larger sense, this book is a cultural criticism because fatherhood, much more than motherhood, is a cultural invention. Its meaning for the individual man is shaped less by biology than  by a cultural script or story - a societal code that guides, and at times pressures, him into certain ways of acting and of understanding himself as a man.

Like motherhood, fatherhood is made up of both a biological and a social dimension. Yet in societies across the world, mothers are far more successful than fathers at fusing these two  dimensions into a coherent parental identity. Is the nursing mother playing a biological or a social role? Is she feeding or bonding? We can hardly separate the two, so seamlessly are they  woven together.

But fatherhood is a different matter. A father makes his sole biological contribution at the moment of conception -- nine months before the infant enters the world. Because social paternity is  only indirectly like to biological paternity, the connection between the two cannot be assumed. The phrase "to father a child" usually refers only to the act of insemination, not to the  responsibility of raising a child. What fathers contribute to their offspring after conception is largely a matter of cultural devising.

Moreover, despite their other virtues, men are not ideally suited to responsible fatherhood. Although they certainly have the capacity for fathering, men are inclined to sexual promiscuity and  paternal waywardness. Anthropologically, human fatherhood constitutes what might be termed a necessary problem. It is necessary because, in all societies, child well-being and societal  success hinge largely upon a high level of paternal investment: the willingness of adult males to devote energy and resources to the care of their offspring. It is a problem because adult males  are frequently - indeed, increasingly - unwilling unable to make that vital investment.

Because fatherhood is universally problematic in human societies, cultures must mobilize to devise and enforce the father role for men, coaxing and guiding them into fatherhood through a set  of legal and extralegal pressures that require them to maintain a close alliance with their children's mother and to invest in their children. Because men do not volunteer for fatherhood as  much as they are conscripted into it by the surrounding culture, only an authoritative cultural story of fatherhood can fuse biological and social paternity into a coherent male identity.

For exactly the same reason, Margaret Mead and others have observed that the supreme test of any civilization is whether it can socialize men by teaching them to be fathers -- creating a  culture in which men acknowledge their paternity and willingly nurture their offspring. Indeed, if we equate the essence of the antisocial male with violence, we can equate the essence of the  socialized male with being a good father. Thus, at the center of our most important cultural imperative, we find the fatherhood script: the story that describes what it ought to mean for a man  to have a child.

Just as the fatherhood script advances the social goal of harnessing male behavior to collective needs, it also reflects an individual purpose, that purpose, in a word, is happiness.  Anthropologists have long understood that the genius of an effective culture is its capacity to reconcile individual happiness with collective well-being. By situating individual lives within a  social narrative, culture endows private behavior with larger meaning. By linking the self to moral purposes larger than the self, an effective culture tells us a story in which individual  fulfillment transcends selfishness, and personal satisfaction transcends narcissism.

In this respect, our cultural script is not simply a set of imported moralisms, exterior to the individual and designed only to compel self sacrifice. It is also a pathway - indeed, our only  pathway - to what the founders of the the American experiment called the pursuit of happiness.

The stakes on this issue could hardly be higher. Our society's conspicuous failure to sustain or create compelling norms of fatherhood amounts to a social and personal disaster. Today's  story of fatherhood features one-dimensional characters, and unbelievable plot, and an unhappy ending. It reveals in our society both a failure of collective memory and a collapse of moral  imagination. It undermines families, neglects children, causes or aggravates our worst social problems and make individual adult happiness - both male and female - harder to achieve.

Ultimately, this failure reflects nothing less than a culture gone awry: a culture increasingly unable to establish the boundaries, erect the sign posts and fashion the stories that can harmonize  individual happiness with collective well-being. In short, it reflects a culture that increasing fails to "enculture" individual men and women, mothers and fathers.

In personal terms, the end result of this process, the final residue from what David Gutmann calls the "deculturation" of paternity, is narcissism: a me-first egotism that is hostile not only to  any societal goal or larger moral purpose but also to any save the most puerile understanding of personal happiness. In social terms, the primary results of decultured paternity are a decline  in children's well-being and a rise in male violence, especially against women. In a larger sense, the most significant result is our society's steady fragmentation into atomized individuals,  isolated from one another and estranged from the aspirations and realities of common membership in a family, a community, a nation, bound by mutual commitment and shared memory.

The main character in this book is not a real person. As befits a book about shared narratives, he is a cultural model, or what Max Weber calls an ideal social type - an anthropomorphized  composite of cultural ideas about the meaning of paternity. I call him the Good Family Man. As described by one of the fathers interviewed for this book, a good family man "puts his family  first."

If this book could be distilled into one sentence, it would be this: A good society celebrates the ideal of the man who puts his family first. Because our society is now lurching in the opposite  direction. I see the Good Family Man as the principal casualty of today's weakening fatherhood scripts. And because I cannot imagine a good society without him, I offer him as the  protagonist in the stronger script that I believe is both necessary and possible.

 
Top Psycho Moms: 10 of the Worst PDF Print E-mail
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Written by Blogaholic   

Unfortunately  one of the Psycho Mom's is an Indian.

China Arnold: Back in November of 2006 - China Arnold was arrested on suspicion of murdering her newborn daughter by putting the baby in a microwave oven. She was jailed on a charge of aggravated murder, more than a year after she brought her dead month-old baby to a hospital. Evidence included high-heat internal injuries and the absence of external burn marks on the baby. Rather than the death penalty, she was given life in prison without possibility of parole in August of 2008.

Susan Smith: Susan strapped her children into their car seats and ended their lives by putting the car in neutral and letting it roll down the boat ramp.   Michael and Alex Smith became murder victims when Psycho Mom reached into the car and released the parking brake sending the family car into John D. Long Lake.  She also initially lied, fabricated a story about a car-jacking and sent police and the public on a manhunt for a fabricated African American male. Judge Howard Susan Smith to thirty years to life in prison.  Psycho is eligible for parole in 2025.

Andrea Yates: Andrea filled the family tub with water and beginning with Paul, she systematically drowned the three youngest boys, then placed them on her bed and covered them. Mary was left floating in the tub. The last child alive was the first born, seven-year-old Noah. He asked his mother what was wrong with Mary, then turned and ran away. Andrea caught up with him and as he screamed, she dragged him and forced him into the tub next to Mary’s floating body. He fought desperately, coming up for air twice, but Andrea held him down until he was dead. Leaving Noah in the tub, she brought Mary to the bed and laid her in the arms of her brothers.  Andrea’s original conviction was overturned and she was found not-guilty by reason of insanity.

Sabine Hilschenz: In April of 2008, A German appeals court confirmed a 15-year prison sentence handed to this woman for killing eight of her newborn babies in the country’s worst post-war infanticide case. The remains of the babies were found in buckets and flowerpots at the home she shared with her husband, and in an old fish tank at the home of her parents in the town of Brieskow-Finkenheerd in former communist east Germany. She gave birth to nine babies - 2 boys and 7 girls - between 1988 and 1998. She was also accused of killing the first of the 9 babies, born in 1988, but the lower court ruled that the time in which she could be charged in connection with that death had lapsed.

Banita Jacks: In January of 2008, she was charged with three counts of felony murder and one count of first-degree murder while armed. She murdered 4 children in grisly fashion. Jacks told police that her daughters were possessed by demons and that each died in her sleep during a seven- to 10-day period. Preliminary findings were that Brittany was stabbed to death and that Aja died from blunt-force impact to the back of her head and possible ligature strangulation. Both Tatianna and N’kiah also had “apparent ligature evidence” on their necks that was “somewhat more defined than that noted on Aja Fogle’s neck,” court documents said. She kept her daughters for many months. Their bodies were found in the home severely decomposed.
Deanna Laney:  This psycho mom, who reported that she killed two of her three children “on God’s orders” was actually acquitted in April of 2004 and ordered into a state psychiatric facility in Texas.  Laney, an East Texas housewife, locked her sleeping husband in their bedroom and then went to Joshua and Luke’s room. She escorted Luke to a rock garden in the front yard of their home, which is encircled by a white split-rail fence. Laney told her son to lie down with his head on a rock and she took another large rock, raised it over her head and brought it down onto his skull. She then killed Joshua in the same manner. Both children were found dead with large stones lying on their chests. Aaron, the third son, 14 months old, was attacked with a rock in his crib but did not die.

Lisa Diaz: To “save her children from an evil world” - she drowned them.  Both of them.  Briana, 6, and Kamryn, 3, back in 2003.   A Collin County jury decided in August 2004 that Ms. Diaz did not know it was wrong to drown her two young daughters. She had been suffering from psychotic delusions and thought she was being merciful by killing them, according to testimony during the trial. As a result, the jury found her not guilty by reason of insanity. Prosecutors disagreed, saying that there were no signs of mental illness at the time of her arrest. In fact, they said, she showed remorse for her actions.  She was released after being found “mentally stable” after little more than 2-years in a psychiatric hospital.

Dena Schlosser: This psycho mother killed her eleven-month-old daughter, Margaret Schlosser, in 2004, amputating the baby’s arms with a knife and offering her to God.  This crazy bitch is actually soon to be a free woman.  Another mother who gets off lightly after killing children, she was found not-guilty by reason of insanity.  Now, she is moved to outpatient care and will be free from any punishment.

Geneviève Lhermitte: Back in 2007, this mother slashed the throats of her five children before trying to commit suicide in the Belgian town of Nivelles. Unfortunately, she wasn’t successful in killing herself as effectively as she took the lives of her offspring. The girls Yasmine,14, Nora, 12, Myriam, 10, Mina, 8, and a boy Mehdi, 3, had all been “killed with a knife” and the mother had called the emergency services after an apparent attempt to kill herself with the same weapon.  She was “depressed.”  On December 19, 2008 Lhermitte was found guilty of the murders by the court and is now facing life imprisonment.
Fed up with poverty and ill health, a woman fed her six children food laced with a pesticide and later consumed the same herself in new Pannapur area of Hapur on Wednesday night.

Saroj Bala: 35, was married to a truck driver who was knee-deep in debt. She poisoned all 6 of her children. The three children identified by the police are Dolly, 14, Jyoti, 10, and Sanjeev, 9; the names of the three other children could not be ascertained. In a recovered suicide note, she has blamed herself for the tragedy.  The lack of blaming someone else or something else is stunning.  This psycho mom actually blamed herself and managed to succeed in taking her own life.  Among the six children, the eldest was a 14-year-old girl and the youngest a three-year-old boy.

 
ONE DAY IN THE LIFE OF A DIVORCED MAN PDF Print E-mail
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But have you heard of “lose-lose” situation. 
Here is one of my fiction short stories which depicts a lose-lose situation – or does it?  
It is a story with a message. 
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Children Are Not Pawns in the Chess Game of Divorce PDF Print E-mail
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Conflict resolution practices are a necessary part of negotiating through custody issues in a divorce proceeding. Identifying which methods best suite the parties involved, to reduce
or eliminate the possibility of allowing the feuding spouses to use the minors as weapons to force their own agendas, will guide a successful negotiation. The purpose of this paper will be to focus on the identifiers that contribute to using minor children as weapons during a custody battle and how to manage this conflict from a human relations standpoint. The solutions provided will support the theory of conflict resolution methods addressed.
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