Studies show, that fathers can be their own worst enemy in a child custody battle, because this is one time, when a man thinks with his emotions rather than logic. Women tend to be more vicious right from the beginning, and waste no time in finding out what they need to do, to win custody and acquire child-support. They learn quickly, that by making a bunch of crazy and in most cases, untrue allegations against the father, such as claiming some sort of child abuse, or that the father is a drug addict or alcoholic, and of course their favorite, The battered wife syndrome. The judge, will almost always allow the mother to have at least temporary custody.
As women climb higher up the career ladder and outpace their exes in salary, when love goes wrong and marriages break up they are being compelled to contribute to the livelihood of their former spouses.
And some are not happy about it.
More than half, 56 percent, of divorce lawyers across the United States have seen an increase in mothers paying child support in the last three years and 47 percent have noted a hike in the number of women paying alimony, according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers.
It's no secret that parents should pay attention to how they communicate with their children. Even tiger moms and parents following the French style of raising children could agree that what we say to our kids -- and how we say it -- matters. Tiger moms and French parents get the results they want largely because of what they say. But besides using words to get kids to do what they want, how moms and dads communicate with their kids directly impacts the parent-child relationship long term. And it's the simple statements parents make, usually in a moment of frustration with their young children, which can cause the most damage later on.
Abdul can’t stop talking about his forthcoming trip abroad. And why not? This is the first time the excited 14-year-old will be travelling outside India. His father, Naeem, has been granted permission by the Bombay high court to take the teenager abroad.
Abdul’s parents divorced when he was barely 11 months old. The child was entrusted in his father’s care; mother Fatima has access rights. Both parents get to share half-a-vacation each with Abdul. This time, Naeem applied to the court to take Abdul to the UK and Europe.
The earliest memory I have of my father is a tall man, so caring and compassionate. I remember being about five or six years old and not doing so well in school. My mother was giving me an earful and I anxiously awaited my dad's arrival from the bank expecting a further dosage of chastisement. My father sauntered in and charges were levelled against me and to my pleasant surprise, he sat down, put me on his lap and gave me a big hug and kiss and told me to do better next time.
Fathers and Families® improves the lives of children and strengthens society by protecting the child’s right to the love and care of both parents after separation or divorce. We seek better lives for children through family court reform that establishes equal rights and responsibilities for fathers and mothers.
I have long maintained that a more child-focused approach to resolving parenting disputes after separation and divorce is needed to reduce harm to children and ensure their well-being. Usually, when parents cannot agree on parenting matters, they take their case to a judge for a resolution. The court then applies a "best interests of the child" standard in its decision-making in regard to kids’ future living arrangements. The problem is, however, that this standard is extremely vague and indeterminate, based on projective speculation about which parent might in future be the “better” parent, and thus subject to judicial bias and error. Judges not trained in child development and family dynamics are given unfettered discretion, and this results in unpredictable outcomes based on idiosyncratic biases and subjective value judgments.
Fredrick Martin Jr. made no effort to conceal the pride he felt for his son. He bragged about the 8-year-old's skills at karate and baseball, and showed family members copies of the boy's completed homework.
"I have a young child genius," Martin told his half-sister recently.
On Tuesday evening, Martin, 28, was cleaning the garage of his grandmother's Inglewood home, along with his son, Fredrick "Tre" Martin III, and the boy's godfather, Joseph Hickman. Just after 7 p.m., they heard gunfire nearby.
